The Business Of Being A Black Woman in America

While I was at home scrolling through the internet, I came across the question of "Are you tired of being a black woman in America?" and it honestly left me speechless.

There have been questions like are you tired of being treated this way, etc., but never "are you tired of being a black woman in America?" The question to me is almost an insult to me and other Black women around the world.

I would NEVER get tired of being a black woman, period, in America or outside of America. Being black is who I am, and if the color of my skin color is bothering someone, maybe they need to check themselves, not me.

There may be troubles, challenges, and hardships that black women go through, but that's not enough to make me hate being a black woman in America.

 Those troubles, challenges, and hardships it has made me a strong, powerful black woman. Because of that, I have beautiful and powerful aunties, nieces, a mother, a sister, best friends. These women in my life are a definition of being a black woman in America, not hating it.

Being a black woman in America has taught me valuable lessons. Like things may not come easy to me, I'm different than other women, and some may be threatened by my strength, intelligence, essence, and the way I carry myself, but that has made me into the woman I am today.

Every day I continue to learn something different, apply it to myself, and set an excellent example for young black girls, teenagers, and women.

I may have a bad day and start to feel overwhelmed with how I'm treated and viewed, but I know I can't dwell on it for long because it will ruin my mood. As a black woman, we are told to suck it up and deal with it, but as MY black woman, I cry, get angry, upset, and I'm going to give myself that time to be upset, don't settle for those what black women should be standards.

Black women are viewed as weak for crying, loud for voicing their opinion, too strong for not wanting to follow a man's lead or anyone for that matter, but that doesn't matter. It's okay and valid to feel what you want to feel. One thing that all those beautiful women taught me was to be who are you are and feel what you’re feeling. 

If I'm upset or angry, sad about a situation, I will feel that way. If I'm happy, excited, and ecstatic, I'm going to feel that way.

I'm going to voice it as well. Just because society wants women, in general, to keep their mouth shut and as black women when we voice our opinion are tagged too bossy or angry doesn’t mean we should keep quiet. No, that's not it! Just as everyone else can voice what they have to say, we can as well.

Listen, my black queens, don't let society fool you into thinking that you should be quiet, fake, and ESPECIALLY hate that you are a black woman living in America. Remember your worth, strength, beauty, talent, brains, and all those other beautiful black women in the world you look up to and inspire you to do bigger and better things on earth.

"Sometimes, I feel discriminated against, but it does not make me angry. It merely astonishes me. How can any deny themselves the pleasure of my company? It's beyond me." Zora Neale Hurston

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